10.21.2015 – Let’s Talk Pt 2

Let's Talk

I’ve found myself reflecting over different versions of my life’s “plan” lately. I think as I see more and more of my family and friends getting married and starting families of their own I just think of where I thought my life would be at twenty-eight and how far from that picture I am…

When I was in my late teens I thought by this age I would be married, have children, and have the classic suburban life. I guess when we’re graduating high school and starting college even twenty-five seems light-years away… As I got a little older and realized my idea of “old” wasn’t really that old, and my female health took so many loops and turns I realized that maybe my “plan” wasn’t going to work. If you knew me you’d know that I’m a planner, and coming to this realization was tough. But, as I’ve come into my late twenties it’s been freeing.

Even just 2 years ago, if you had asked me where I thought I would be right this moment, I would have told you that I would be about to marry California… probably in the process of buying a house, still working for the same company and loving it, and living happily ever after. Boy would I have been wrong…

But, right now there isn’t anything about my life that I would change…

  • In May, I accepted a new job that was a great career move and I’m so happy that I did!
  • This year, I’ve traveled (within the US) more than I ever have, but still not as much as I wish had… but next year… I hope to double it!
  • I started blogging!!!!!
  • I moved into my first house… I always said I would wait to purchase until I was married.. well, I was finished waiting to start things in my life.
  • I really dove into fundraising with the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. #teamcure
  • I put myself out there in more ways than I can explain and really have taken myself out of my comfort zone.

I used to think that I was cursed because I was unmarried, and without children… and I wasn’t getting younger. Because of that I’ve grown to know myself more and more. I’ve realized that I love the freedoms of my life… I would love to meet an amazing man to share my life with some day. But, I’m finished feeling like my life is unfulfilled because of it. I’ve also realized from all of life’s ups and downs that as of right now, I don’t want children. Maybe that will change but right now I just don’t see kids in my future, I see traveling, and just spoiling the kids around me. Don’t get me wrong, I love kids… I just think I want to be “Aunt Hillary” to all my friends and cousins kiddos, and that’s OK!

So, here is to rolling with the punches and saying that it’s alright to adjust the sails… and coming from an avid planner that’s saying something…

What changes to the plan have you made? Until next time…

xoxo H


2 thoughts on “10.21.2015 – Let’s Talk Pt 2

  1. Ashley says:

    Life isn’t meant to be planned and executed perfectly to a T. It’s sometimes sad to look back and think about how much your younger self had wanted for your present-day self, but just think about all the things you have accomplished that 20-year-old Hillary hadn’t even considered. You have so much going for you and I am so happy to call you my friend! Keep it up, chica!


    • Hillary says:

      Thanks Ashley! It’s crazy how far from the “plan” in so many places I am… but how I wouldn’t change anything! I guess that old saying about life happening when we are busy making plans is true!


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